Friday, 14 December 2012

Friends? {Flashback Friday}

Todays post is possibly controversial... some of my readers will be thinking "why is she wasting time writing about her.."

In the early hours of this morning I woke up sobbing from my dream. I was deep in dreamland reminiscing from my university days. A lot of these years were spent with a girl whom I thought of as a very close friend: we lived together, we spent many nights out together, we holidayed together, we did the food shopping together, we watched hollyoaks EVERY night together, basically we pretty much lived in each others pockets for 4 solid years. The day we left our student house to return home we stood on the doorway in each others arms sobbing our hearts out.

From then we kept in close contact via email or phone and tried to see each other as often as we could - at least once every 6 weeks.

It was no question that she was to be a bridesmaid at our wedding - until, about 13 months ago she dropped a bomb shell on me. Our friendship was "hardwork", she no longer "needed to be friends with me", "we were friends at university as she didn't click with anyone else" etc etc...

Needless to say, she wasn't present at our wedding.

The past 13 months have flown by in a whirlwind of events. This doesn't mean I found it really hard to begin with. I struggled to see how I would get through my wedding day without my 'best friend' beside me; I didnt want to continue looking at bridesmaid dresses or planning the hen do without her there. Thank goodness I learnt who my real friends were and was very lucky to be supported by them all.

Christmas 2006

Summer 2008

V Festival 2008

Holiday in Greece 2009

July 2011

Life moves on - in the period that we haven't spoken, I have bought a house & got married. Two of the biggest moments of my life so far. It's just sad that someone who I thought would be there through 'thick and thin' isn't/wasn't.

I'll never understand how a 7 year friendship can just be thrown away like that.

I guess our dreams all have meanings of some descriptions, whatever their rhyme or reasons.



  1. Do you know what, it's her loss completely. You are an amazing person and she's an absolute idiot for throwing that away. She doesn't deserve a friend like you.

    I had a friend who I had known since the day I was born, she was chief bridesmaid at my wedding, I saw her 3 months after and then never saw her again. I always thought she would play a huge part in my childrens lives and I'm still heartbroken that she isn't.
    xxx Big hug xxx

  2. That is really sad but it sounds like you are better off with her out of your life. True friends will be there for you no matter how far apart you live or how little or often you see them.

  3. Oh lovely this is so sad! There must be underlying reason why she suddenly broke off your friendship maybe her husband? It is HER loss and such a strange for a so called best friend to do! (Hugs) you don't need her in your life if this is how she treats you, even though it must still hurt.
    Thanks for linking up x x