Before I begin this post, I don't claim to be the perfect wife and nor do I wish to come across as a preaching know-it-all kind; this is merely a post of my thoughts and opinions!
Browsing Facebook yesterday I noticed another victim of adultery. A young couple with small children fallen victim to the stereotyped "he can't keep it in his pants" scenario.
It saddens me that this particular couple have only been married for around 6 months... (not that it is ANY of my business) but I wondered what went through their minds on their wedding day as they read out their vows?
We had a non-religious civil ceremony, but our vows were a variation of the traditional:
I _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife/husband. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part.
This is a promise made to each other, a legal binding. Surely you have to feel and believe in the words you are speaking?
I am not so naive to not realise that some marriages just do not work; but surely you owe it to each other to be honest and try to work things through?
If you're not happy; you're not happy. But why commit adultery and cause so much more hurt than is necessary? Think before you act - let your partner know you're not happy and you can't go on as you are.
"it takes two" - I appreciate all of that, I really do. Again though, TALK! Talk it through with your wife/husband about how & why you feel as you do.
I personally believe it is so important to remember the vows you read and promised on your wedding day. There are going to be good days, some bad days & some ugly days, but together you can get through them. There will be times of sickness & bad health, but together you work through them. To me, that's what a marriage is all about - working together.